Mar 27, 2009
An Opinion on Opinions
This week I caught myself thinking ill of someone, then caught myself extending my ill opinion to the larger group that I know him through.
A few things came to mind:
1. More than half of the things I was blaming him for weren't necessarily real. I was unhappy that I hadn't gotten what I wanted, but very little of that could have been blamed on their character or action. Things just didn't happen the way I hoped.
2. How often do I form opinions based on insufficient or incorrect data? "FSU's basketball team is probably unethical". (I assume their coach is unethical because much of their athletic department has been proven such.) "I'll bet Jim and Laine are getting divorced because Jim's an arrogant jerk. (I assume this because I saw Jim act cocky once, and because he didn't do something I wanted him to.)
3. And how often do I form negative opinions about things that I don't even need an opinion on, even if they're true? "Sue has no style." "I don't like Morrisville." "That restaurant is horrible. Ninth Street would be better off without it."
So now I'm making an conscious effort to quit evaluating things unnecessarily or incorrectly. I'll let you know if anything comes of it.
Update with related quote: "The challenge is to be a light, not a judge; to be a model, not a critic." Stephen Covey in Principle-Centered Leadership, which I happened to pick up one day after writing the above blog.
I think one can get away with not having an opinion on Morrisville, but it's essential to take a stand on Cary ...
Posted by: Lisa B | Mar 28, 2009 9:03:33 AM
I need to read that book.
Posted by: etselec | Mar 30, 2009 1:05:45 PM